The Steps in Love

Fat, but chocolate all around ♥

Pretty brainless... cheerleader... very much cliché as well..

I should mention that comparing black people with chocolate is considered very rude/insulting. It's best not to do it again before someone jumps your neck that you're being insulting, while I am sure that's the last thing you want to be.

Oh no... it was not meant like this! I just meant Yani is as sweet as chocolate.

I that case I should maybe mention that my husband is Chinese, before anyone says I am a racist :P

No, I know you're faaaar away from being rude, but I thought it's best to tell before you do this anywhere else on the internet and other people will jump on you. Such a comparison is now considered racist/rude.

Okay, thanks a lot^^ I really did not thing about it, but you really might be right. Some people even might feel insulted or even hurt, that is the last thing I want to happen...

That means: Chocolate is a bad thing. A very, very, very thing! Especially for girls.
Und weiter auf deutsch - weil mein Englisch dafür nicht ausreicht:
Es ist bedauerlich, nicht einmal mehr einfach seine Meinung sagen zu dürfen - ohne, dass es gleich jemanden gibt, der Böses dabei denkt. Oder Böses dabei denken will. Oder Böses hineininterpretiert.
Muss man wirklich jedes Wort auf die Goldwaage legen? Gibt es nicht immer irgendwo irgendwen, der sich irgendwie auf den Schlips getreten fühlt, gleich wie man irgendwas zum Ausdruck bringt?
Ich, für meinen Teil, hatte nicht den geringsten Zweifel, CatariaNigra meinte einfach nur Süßes. Hätte sie 'Zucker' geschrieben, gäbe es kein Kommentar zum Kommentar zum Kommentar.

Of course not. "Sugar" is not the same as "chocolate". To use the word "chocolate" for people of color is fetishizing and dehumanizing. And I know something like "sweet" was meant, but I still found it best to inform them about it.
Yes, you have to watch your words, times change and it's best to flow with it. And some people are so sad to immediately jump on your throat and call you the worst things instead of correcting gently and advice you to avoid it and learn from it. Some words are insulting toward certain groups and it's a humane thing to learn from it. Everyone will say things that are insulting while you don't want to insult at all. It's something that has grown into you thanks to culture and old standards. I have done it too. I have said and did insulting things without knowing they were. When I discovered that, I learned from it and don't do them anymore.

Do not say a word - and nobody gets hurt.

Or, you know, learn from it.

Yes.
I do it my way.

Then I hope your way is to actually take it seriously and learn from it and think of other people's feelings instead of making it into a joke

Ich habe mich über niemandes Gefühle lustig gemacht. Mein Vergehen war einzig und allein die Äußerung meiner Meinung.